Once again, I'm astounded as to the impeccable timing of this Musing; completely unplanned and yet sparked at the most perfect and relevant moment. I realized, as I was writing, that tomorrow will be exactly one year since I launched my blog and that yesterday was exactly one year since I was gifted with a precious lesson as to the very topic of this post: THE CONSEQUENCE OF EXPECTATIONS. The honest to goodness truth is that my blog was born as a result of that whole scenario last June, and despite the discomfort it took to land me where I needed to be, in retrospect I could not be more grateful.
Although she was sharing about her process, in that instant, as she uttered those words, absolutely every perceived heartbreak and disappointment I have ever lived, consciously since about the age of twelve, made sense. And in that instant, the final pieces of that lesson from last June fell into place...
RESTRICTION, EXCLUSION, and PENALTY
The CONSEQUENCE of expectations now fully perceived in the context of
EXPANSION, INCLUSION, and LIBERATION
Having broached another angle of my journey to wholeness in a previous Musing, the last several months have made it undeniably clear that there is a HUGE process underway in my life serving to demolish the stagnant and limiting template I have always operated from. From the same predictable storyline I've weaved into my creative writing over the years to the very way I live my life, it is time to change the narrative.
The bottom line is that I can no longer do what I have always done. I can no longer behave in ways I have always behaved. There is no stopping what has been set into motion since last summer, an abundance of accelerated growth is upon me. My life and my heart are being cracked wide open, an influx of profound messages coming to me, a reverence for this process bursting forth that I can't even put into words.
Though ultimately this is a process I must undergo on my own, I am not blind to those who are in my life to assist me. In due time I will post a Musing dedicated to the topic of Sacred Contracts but for now I will simply say that some people show up in our life to teach us lessons that we really can't ignore, lessons that are crucial to our growth, to our purpose, and to our destiny. That said, I am amazed and humbled by the sequencing of events, by the practicality and direct application of what I've learned - especially in terms of what has manifested in my reality since that fateful day and since the launch of this blog last June. I realize I have been helped to grow in such meaningful ways and it is obvious to me now that this particular ally, this bright messenger who graciously taught me about the consequence of expectations and so much more, was a bridge from my past to my future and trained me with expertise to navigate this current unfolding chapter; a stunningly intense chapter fraught with unavoidable and demanding challenges, likely to be remembered as one of the most significant of my life.
As always, some questions for further reflection:
*Are you aware of the expectations you have of people, relationships, situations?
*Do you tend to have "positive" expectations of people, relationships, situations?
*Do you tend to have "negative" expectations of people, relationships, situations?
*Do you believe others are responsible for living up to your expectations either way?
*Are you aware of how you feel when your "positive" expectations are not met?
*Are you aware of how you feel when your "negative" expectations are met?
*If so, how do those feelings impact your behaviour?
*If so, how do those feelings impact your relationships?
*If so, how do those feelings impact the quality of your life?
*Are you aware of the expectations others have of you?
*Do you believe that you are responsible for living up to the expectations of others?
*Are you aware of how others feel when their expectations of you are not met?
*If so, how do those feelings impact your relationship and interactions?
*What consequences have you perceived as a result of having expectations?
*After reading this post are you able to see things in a new light?