Dear Readers,
In all honesty I had no idea a new Musing would arrive so hot on the heels of my last one, but that's one thing I love about this journey - being constantly kept on my toes and made to walk that fine line between expecting nothing and staying open to everything! As always, the content of this post stems from the fruits of my own personal and professional experience, and I can only hope that the time spent reading and contemplating these ideas will be of value to you.
Dear Readers,
In all honesty I had no idea a new Musing would arrive so hot on the heels of my last one, but that's one thing I love about this journey - being constantly kept on my toes and made to walk that fine line between expecting nothing and staying open to everything! As always, the content of this post stems from the fruits of my own personal and professional experience, and I can only hope that the time spent reading and contemplating these ideas will be of value to you.
Not long into my last Musing about Self-Care and the Medicine of Who We Are, I mention a process I’ve become increasingly aware of in the context of my practice whereby my clients act as somewhat of a collective voice, delivering subconscious material which I am in turn asked to decode, digest, and reflect back once the material has become conscious and has been worked through. As I become further accustomed to this process, it seems that more and more is being delivered for exploration and contemplation.
That said, quite shortly after publishing my last post I met with a new client who had been struggling with something rather elusive for the past two decades to no avail. As the client elaborated about their life and certain experiences, despite a calm and collected exterior, I could sense a tsunami under the surface, a storm in the silence between their words. To my amazement, immediately upon beginning the energy work portion of the session, a theme suddenly blew up - and as my empathic gifts are often filtered through my intellect, they showed up as two big, bold words: COMPROMISE and SACRIFICE. Following the words themselves came much imagery to illustrate how this client's life force had literally been squashed since early childhood, and that compromise and sacrifice lay at the root of the manifestation of their symptoms. Like clockwork, following that session, sessions with other clients began to deliver a similar message and so, without hesitation I started to decode, digest, and distill.
From a young age, as we begin to socialize with siblings and other humans big and small, we are taught about what’s MINE and what’s YOURS and about SHARING and BEING KIND. If we are raised in a relatively functional household we are often encouraged to understand what it means to be a "fair and honourable" individual. Our role models’ understanding of those concepts however, and our own understanding of those concepts, is open to vast interpretation. Though a concept is a concept, it is never black and white - it is a multidimensional "field" that will be experienced differently according to the particular beliefs and conditioning packed into it for each individual. And so, what with so much guilt and fear polluting our respective and collective bloodlines, what may be initially presented and intended as something positive and constructive can potentially manifest as a destructive distortion.
Therefore, while the ability to "reach a place of compromise" or to "sacrifice something for the good of everyone involved" may have social and interpersonal benefits, there is a great difference between that and compromising or sacrificing one’s SELF for the sake of someone or something.
To quote my last Musing: "we are akin to lighthouses and the natural light within each of us has its own specific frequency, its own specific vibration. It is this unique inner light, this unique frequency of our individual consciousness that underlies the medicine of who we are. With each of us carrying organic keys and codes within us, it is through these keys and codes that we have the capacity to heal ourselves, to heal each other, and our planet. When we detach from what serves to control us and to drain us - and take the time to resource with that which nourishes and sustains us - we are able to uncover our unique inner light and get back to what is most important, which is being the medicine of who we are."
That said, quite shortly after publishing my last post I met with a new client who had been struggling with something rather elusive for the past two decades to no avail. As the client elaborated about their life and certain experiences, despite a calm and collected exterior, I could sense a tsunami under the surface, a storm in the silence between their words. To my amazement, immediately upon beginning the energy work portion of the session, a theme suddenly blew up - and as my empathic gifts are often filtered through my intellect, they showed up as two big, bold words: COMPROMISE and SACRIFICE. Following the words themselves came much imagery to illustrate how this client's life force had literally been squashed since early childhood, and that compromise and sacrifice lay at the root of the manifestation of their symptoms. Like clockwork, following that session, sessions with other clients began to deliver a similar message and so, without hesitation I started to decode, digest, and distill.
From a young age, as we begin to socialize with siblings and other humans big and small, we are taught about what’s MINE and what’s YOURS and about SHARING and BEING KIND. If we are raised in a relatively functional household we are often encouraged to understand what it means to be a "fair and honourable" individual. Our role models’ understanding of those concepts however, and our own understanding of those concepts, is open to vast interpretation. Though a concept is a concept, it is never black and white - it is a multidimensional "field" that will be experienced differently according to the particular beliefs and conditioning packed into it for each individual. And so, what with so much guilt and fear polluting our respective and collective bloodlines, what may be initially presented and intended as something positive and constructive can potentially manifest as a destructive distortion.
Therefore, while the ability to "reach a place of compromise" or to "sacrifice something for the good of everyone involved" may have social and interpersonal benefits, there is a great difference between that and compromising or sacrificing one’s SELF for the sake of someone or something.
To quote my last Musing: "we are akin to lighthouses and the natural light within each of us has its own specific frequency, its own specific vibration. It is this unique inner light, this unique frequency of our individual consciousness that underlies the medicine of who we are. With each of us carrying organic keys and codes within us, it is through these keys and codes that we have the capacity to heal ourselves, to heal each other, and our planet. When we detach from what serves to control us and to drain us - and take the time to resource with that which nourishes and sustains us - we are able to uncover our unique inner light and get back to what is most important, which is being the medicine of who we are."
While the positive side of compromise and sacrifice may ask you to meet someone or something partway, it is designed to have mutual benefit and will never ask you to betray yourself. Although I have yet to publish a distinct Musing on the topic of betrayal, it is on my list and I can assure you it will pack a punch in terms of contemplation. What I will say for now however, with relevance to the topic at hand today, is that we are often so focused on what we perceive as betrayal from the outside that we neglect to look at where we are betraying ourselves. When we behave in ways that serve to compromise and sacrifice the essence of who we are, that is the greatest form of self-betrayal, something which insidiously underlies much illness and dis-ease, steals our life force and kills us bit by bit, day by day.
No matter your age, this post asks you to reflect upon your true passions, your dreams, and your desires. It asks you to reflect upon where you hold yourself back from investing in that which makes your heart sing, where you stifle your dazzling potential out of guilt and fear, or in seeking love and acceptance. Whether more years lie behind you than ahead of you, it is of no consequence as the time is now.
No matter your age, this post asks you to reflect upon your true passions, your dreams, and your desires. It asks you to reflect upon where you hold yourself back from investing in that which makes your heart sing, where you stifle your dazzling potential out of guilt and fear, or in seeking love and acceptance. Whether more years lie behind you than ahead of you, it is of no consequence as the time is now.
The time is now to take a good look at your life and to examine where you’ve been told you're TOO MUCH or NOT ENOUGH, where you yourself have adopted the belief that you’re TOO MUCH or NOT ENOUGH, and where you may tend to compromise and sacrifice your Self as a result.
The time is now to recognize the unique and amazing qualities we embody, and to honour the dreams we have - the qualities and dreams which others may feel threatened by and wish to tame in us, or which we have been conditioned to fear and to tame in ourselves.
As we come to a close, the point I'm trying to make here isn't about rebellion or anarchy. It isn't about angry defiance or arrogance. Once again, it is about opening our eyes and becoming aware of where we allow our consciousness to be manipulated and controlled, funnelled and siphoned. It is about the will to thrive, about stepping into our personal power from a place of genuine self-love and healthy self-esteem, about aligning to those who believe in us and support our greatest vision, about recognizing ourselves and being the inspirational pioneering spirits we were born to be... ✨
Before signing off, I will leave you with some questions for further reflection. As always, these questions are asked from a place of curiosity and there is no one but yourself to answer to:
* Can you see the difference between reaching a place of compromise for mutual benefit and compromising your SELF to please or to appease?
* Do you experience chronic feelings of anger and resentment, sadness and depression, worry and anxiety? If so, can you relate those feelings to situations or relationships in your life where you may be knowingly or unknowingly compromising and sacrificing your Self?
* Have you grown to believe you’re not enough, or that it’s selfish of you to follow your dreams, to invest in the people, places and things that make your heart sing?
* Have you grown to believe you're too loud, too honest, too bright, "too" whatever? What is it that makes you stand out? What are the qualities you embody that others may feel threatened by and want to tame in you? What qualities have you learned to fear and to tame in yourself?
Thank you for reading my blog! While my work does not replace qualified medical intervention, it may help to provide greater clarity as to underlying issues influencing your state of health on all levels.
Available for local sessions and for sessions via distance to anywhere in the world, please don’t hesitate to contact me HERE with questions or for further info!
Available for local sessions and for sessions via distance to anywhere in the world, please don’t hesitate to contact me HERE with questions or for further info!
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